By Dr Arundhathi Shashikala - Associate Professor of Pathology, AllMS , Mangalagiri,
Andhra Pradesh.

Andhra Pradesh: Marriage is a sacred union between a man and a woman. It is still believed that marriages are made in heaven. But by definition marriage is a legally and socially sanctioned union between a man and a woman, which is regulated by laws, rules, customs,  beliefs and attitudes. 

 The sole purpose of marriage is to beget a progeny. The system of marriage was introduced to maintain peace and order in the society. It was designed to decide the legitimacy of children, the property rights over couples  wealth and to decide the inheritance of this property. 

Marriage has been glorified to a large extent in Indian society, to such an extent that it is proclaimed inevitable for a man or woman to be complete.  In our big fat Indian weddings loads of money is spent for lavish ceremonies. If a marriage turns out to be sour the efforts are made by the families to force it to work out. A marriage can be fruitful only when its existence is based on mutual respect and when both grow together as individuals. The efforts will go in vain even if one of the partners is reluctant to put a sincere effort to keep the relation fresh.

In todays world when feminism and equality are in vogue should we glorify marriage and advocate our kids to sacrifice oneself in the name of marriage? Should a toxic or abusive marriage be tolerated in the name of society, customs and false prestige? Is it not the time to change the definition of so called succesful marriages? 

It is high-time for the parents to change the mindset regarding marriage. What is the essence of being in a "no divorce " marriage which is spoiling the psychological and physical health of an individual. Is it not the responsibility of parents to support their children emotionally when they are being tormented in a brutal marriage. Our childrens future is of prime importance in case of a domestic violence which can be either physical or mental. 

It is the need of the hour to stop glorifying marriages and to be practical. As Lord Krishna advocated in Bhagwad Gita "Change is constant " and we should bring a change in our mindset when a need is warranted in a marriage. Be the parents in whom the children can pour their heart out and seek for help. Glorify your kids and not the marriages.